At one point in my life, I was that girl. I was so focused on getting married to the boyfriend I had at the time that I had no sense of my personal identity and hadn’t thought about my purpose outside of being a good wife and bearing children.
I really find something so icky about girls having this kind of cookie-cutter goal for their married lives and spending their single years obsessing over their dream wedding, dream husband, bouncing from relationship to relationship (disguised as “courting”) and giving away so much of their hearts, and sadly so many times, their sexual purity.
Ladies, we MUST have a life purpose bigger than marriage. We MUST use our single years for the best to figure out who we are, what direction we are headed, and what our life calling is. It is only when we know these things that we will be able to discern who our life partner will be that will lead us in that same direction to accomplish and conquer amazing feats for Christ and His Kingdom.
So to help, I’ve listed some things that I have learned in my singleness that I hope can be of use for all the single ladies:
1. Get right with God.
This is the first thing above anything else. Repentance is a complete turning around from sin – a 180 degree turn. You need to confess your sins to God, and see them as he sees them. Knowing that Christ suffered an excruciating death on the cross for the sin that you hold onto will quicken your heart to despise it and bring it to the light.
Many times, we have sin buried in our lives that we keep ignoring, hoping to just ‘feel’ forgiven for it. Confess it and see the restoration process begin. You will see God use what was meant for evil, to be used for good. Coming to terms with your past and your sin is a powerful tool against the enemy to get you to a place where you experience God’s redemption in a supernatural way.
One of my favorite verses is found in 1 John 1:9: “If we confess our sins, He is faithful and righteous to forgive us our sins and to cleanse us from all unrighteousness.”
2. Find your passion.
Finding what you are passionate about sometimes feels like the most impossible thing to do, which is why people take the easy way out and walk through life aimlessly. This is so important to seek out early on because it will shape every decision that you make, the friends you choose, and even the jobs you take.